This is just a reflective conversation about my personal strategies—not very well formed-of coping with insecure people who always tend to take others down to feel better about themselves. Research in psychology has shown that most people who are bullies or treat others badly are in fact very highly insecure people. One of the best books that deals with issues of identity is Mark Bracher’s “Radical Pedagogy” and I highly recommend it: https://amzn.to/3eNZz9I